Well said TFLN

being single... pros and cons

Being single is pretty much a gift in and of itself.  But sometimes I find myself (like today) pondering the pros and cons and filtering them through my brain.
Pros

1. Sleep... Its mine. Allll mine. 
2. Money. Again, all mine
3. Stay up late for no good reason and not have to wake up a Sig Other to hop into bed
4. Kissing my cats, spoiling them
5. My mess... I will clean it up later
6. Don't have to go out on friday nights if I don't wanna
7. Save gas and time from commuting to see eachother
8. No confusing selfie social media crap
9. Do what ever I want with friends at drop of a hat
10. Cooking dinner=leftovers for tomorrow
11. I love getting taken out on dates!
12. Talk to whomever I want, when, how late etc.
13. Freedom to do anything I want!

Cons

1. Sleeping alone sucks sometimes
2. Writing checks, paying bills, and swiping cards for everything... myself
3. Going to bed early because you're bored
4. Kissing frogs... lots of frogs. Side note: boys are like frogs... jump from lily pad to lily pad kissing all sorts of whatevers... someone drown these frogs please. 
5. I am a nurturer and actually like taking care of someone
6. No friday night date... or holiday buddy for that matter. Holidays suck when you're single
7. Spend money at walmart at ten pm cuz you're bored and need a new craft project
8. selfies are truly selfies
9. All my friends are married and have kids... so that requires planning on their part.
10. Cooking for one is such a waste
11. Dating pool for people my age is slowly getting worse
12. Getting added on social media to watch the guy you like play around (and still keep in contact with his ex wife/serious gf)
13. Hmmmm... pro takes this debate tonight...

This is true:

thigh gap... my eye!

Now I have hips. I mean Kim Kardash meets Beyonce hips. You get the point. I am not fat persay just bootylicious. I have been wracking my brain about this new fab trend about body image. As if we need one more thing as women to beat ourselves up about right? Its called the thigh gap.

If you ask any guy which picture is seriously the better booty I know exactly which one he will pick. Then one on the right! Good job. If that is the case...why are we so obsessed with being skinny. Starving is not sexy. It is sick. Starving shows major illness and mental instability. Don't get me wrong... so does obesity. So where is the happy medium? I have recently come to the conclusion that I am not fat, just bootier. The song "All about that bass" by Megan Trainor. She is diva just like the rest of 'em and just fabulous to listen to and watch! This video made me grin from ear to ear. And its quite the catchy tune. So next time you feel the thigh gap taking over the gap in your brain... think about this silly music video!
Happy healthy eating and living friendsies.



xoxo, D

ps these girls are fabulous to get to know! Tone It Up

Holy moly cratoly

Best advice I've got to date. Just walk away. Your life is more important than being a back burner second hand convenience. Why try to pry open doors when there are a million others just waiting to be explored?! Think about that next time you think to text an ex or take his call. 

And check out this article. Super duper helpful. 

http://hellogiggles.com/ex-calls

say something...

I am frustrated today. I like to think I give my all in everything I do. The one thing that I can't handle is drama from a guy. This song came on tonight at the end of SYTYCD. A great big world performed live. It makes me think of the past relationships or attempts at them, if you will. I find myself thinking and racking my brain at what I keep doing wrong in my life to get to the point of seeing guys walk away. I know that when God removes people out of your life you are not supposed to chase them. I recently got a very drama filled phone call from a guy. Are you just missing me or do you want me to chase you?!? Gahhh! I am not playing this game. Next. "say something I'm giving up on you..."

Tired of

Dating hot guys. It sucks. They are so cocky and wishy washy. I need a guy who is hot but doesn't know it. And can treat me right. I don't want to date hot guys anymore. They are so much work. I'm entirely exhausted.

I'll take the one on the right...

What life has to offer. love.

A poem. 

Life offers much and much am I given. 

I run and I chase and I seek. I am driven. 

My hope and my dreams and my fate are my power. 

I soak up each opportunity each day. Each hour. 

Today, I am grateful for the gifts in my life. 

To love. To be. To breathe. To try. 

I'm strong, honest, faithful, and free. 

Just live my life the way I want it to be. 

Hearts may break and moods may fall. 

To love hurts more than to never love... At all. 

Is it worth the strife I feel when it is over and done? 

I say yes. Because I can love, I've already won. 

Tonight there's no sorrow. No grief. No pain. 

I lay my head down and know love can grow again. 

Hmmmm

I honestly wonder if this dick head knows why he is single? Maybe because of his write up? Or maybe cuz he's just a dbag. I don't wonder. 

Well hell.

I seem to be a magnet for emotionally unavailable men. Explain this. 

Dating pie chart. Simply put.

Never ending.

So today I had a part of a bagel and I already feel like crap. I am not only dairy intolerant but now possible gluten? Ugghhhh (: I'm so high maintenance. Speaking of being obnoxious I decided that I get to have a break from dating to focus on myself. Who gets to hang out with moi is entirely up to the person. Dating is too time consuming. And I have way too much going on right now to waste time playing dumb 'notice me' games.

✔️gym 

✔️school and projects 

✔️work 

✔️photo shoots 

✔️guitar lessons

✔️kickball team 

✔️fam stuff 

✔️girl friend time

✔️kitties

✔️self help reads

..:::Now if I created a pizza pie with all these things and colored it in... Where does dating and searching for a husband fit? It doesn't:::...

Would you rather.

I would rather see 20 guys with shirtless flexy selfies on my insta or fbook feeds than all these preggo or engagement selfies. It gets harder and harder to handle the #loveoverload #cheesycrap that you all post. So yes. Would I rather? Hell yes. Keep them coming. Hahahaha 

Passive aggressive much?

Wow!

It's almost the 4th. One of my favorite holidays because of all it stands for. I wouldn't be able to live and be free if it weren't for the brave and the determined!! What a country. Even though it's falling apart I am still grateful to be an 'Merican. (: thinking happy thoughts. Dating a ton. Loving life. Missing my family a little I went to my dad's tonight and had some photoshoot sparkler fun. What a great way to spend the evening. Two of my favorite things: sassy girls and colored light!! I need to post a few pics from tonight. 

On another note. Gaining weight finally made it's rational at the DR's office yesterday. Not only am I now lactose intolerant but I am gluten intolerant as well. Just call me high maintenance hahaha I wondered why I gained a lot of weight this year and why certain meals make me sick and hurt. I stopped eating dairy and beans and some other foods and that helped a little. But two days I have limited my wheat intake and tonight I had Pizza slice at my dads and holy pain. Gahhhhh!! I don't need to be a special diet girl. Guess this is my answer to my weight and diet issue. Meh. What can you do. Well besides the obvious and not eat gluten. On a good note my vit D level is almost back to normal and so is my ferritin! I am happy bout that. Ok enough rambling for a night. Don't even ask about the flavored boy of the week. The spot is temporarily closed due to lack of interest and patience on my part hahahaha (: