Dating just to date.

It seems nowadays that everybody's just dating to date and everyone is just dating everyone. *sigh* there's no such thing as monogamy anymore and you can forget a second date. Besides him being on the prowl for the next best thing, it seems that anybody who is anybody is all about quantity not quality. For instance, I meet/swipe guys who I think have a good smile and a great little intro on their tinder profile, and then it turns out they're just in town for a business trip, just looking to hook up cuz they're bored. Don't get me wrong I know tinder is just a game but so is dating in general anymore. I guess the jokes on me for being open-minded and hopeful. Most of the time I think these guys just talk to you because they want to boost their ego a little more knowing that another cute girl swiped right. So I joined match.com again for one month to give it a trial since I haven't been on for over year. And I can't even tell you how it's just the same thing as tinder... And yet I paid for the app with match. 

On a similar note I asked a very close guy friends what he thinks my problem is with dating and you want to know what his reply was? "Hey, let me see your tinder profile for just a second." As I handed him my phone and noted he was looking quite intently at my photos, he said, "maybe you don't look like your photos to the guy when they meet you. I'm not saying you're a catfish and tricking them into not being who you say you are and look like who you show you look like online but us guys like fit women who wear make up." Note: I was in sweats and had no makeup on. Lol

So that leaves me here, is it really all about looks. Am I doomed because I'm not blonde and skinny and don't chalk up my entire face with black and bronze. That always seems to be my hold up, but I never feel good enough for another guy let alone,even myself. What makes me more upset is that most of these men online are trolling (like a little fisherman)… If you get my drift so no wonder why there are landing a bunch of catfish (who by the way are making a bad name for us women thank you very much.) because when you fish in a pond that is so full of the same thing, you're going to get the same thing. And women are definitely just trying to impress you men just like you are ya with your shirtless gym selfies and dirt bike wheelie shots. 

And you can forget about asking a girl on a date, it's now just,"hey, do you want to just go out for a quick drink or a cup of coffee?" There is no more wine and dine. Because to be honest with you what kind of man has that much money to be wining and dining so many women on their tinder list? These guys don't have a lot of money anyway so I can see the rationale for wanting to go cheap because it's quantity not quality. And a girl of quality is going to get a good screening before and the guys going to realize that she's actually worth his time and not just another appointment to squeeze in over coffee. So I end this rant, and bid you farewell and good luck this week in their dating endeavors. 

Helpful advice: Do not put out! 

Whatever you do hold fast to the 90 day rule girls. If a guy is worth your time and really is into you...he will be willing to wait until you're ready. Make him work for it i'm not even kidding you because you're just another notch in his belt buckle and if it's that easy... chances are you're not the only girl he's currently sleeping with. And you say STDs? Gross. Just remember what we were talking we were little: ALL BOYS HAVE COOTIES!!